Let me pipe up real quick.

There’s a certain ache that don’t show up on MRIs.
The kind you carry in your silence.
The kind that wakes up before you do
and waits for you in the bathroom mirror.
It smiles back at you,
just like you taught it to.

You move through the day with jokes in your pocket
and laughter you rehearsed.
You’re the safe place.
The stable one.
The example.
The rock.

But the thing about being the rock
is that nobody checks if it’s cracking inside.

You eat pain like it’s breakfast,
hold tears like you’re saving them for a drought.
Not ‘cause you ain’t felt them—
but because you ain’t got the luxury to fall apart.
Not in front of them.
Not when they’re watching.
Not when their peace depends on the illusion that you’re okay.

So you perfect the smile.
You sharpen it until it cuts through suspicion.
You make jokes.
You lift the mood.
You ask how their day was
so they don’t ask about yours.

But at night—
in that moment between exhaustion and sleep,
when the world stops clapping
and the lights stop lying—
you feel it.
That creeping sorrow.
That quiet panic.
That scream pressed under your ribcage
like a folded note nobody ever opened.

Let me tell you something.
That doesn’t make you weak.
That don’t make you broken.
That makes you real.

This life will hand you masks
and dare you to wear them until they become your skin.
But just because you learned to perform joy
don’t mean you never knew pain.

And I see you.
Holding it all together
with duct tape and prayer.
Taking the hits so your babies don’t have to.
Smiling through wounds that still leak when nobody's looking.

It ain’t fair.
And it ain’t easy.
But it’s sacred.

And I know sometimes it feels like no one notices.
Like no one thanks you.
Like you’re invisible
unless something goes wrong.

But let me tell you this:
what you’re doing?
It matters.
Even when the world don’t clap.
Even when your heart’s limping.

Because that smile—
as tired and tattered as it is—
is a seed.
And one day, the ones you protected
will grow up and remember
how you made broken things feel whole.

They’ll remember that love looked like a man
who was dying inside
but still packed their lunch.
Still read the bedtime story.
Still showed up.

And on the days you don’t feel seen,
remember this:
You were never invisible.
You were just holding the weight so high
it was above their view.

Remember we all carry something,
but here you don’t have to carry it alone.
Pipe Up.

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