Unpacking The Weight We Carry: I Thought Islam Caused My Wounds
Five ways I actually found healing through Islam. Come and reflect on pain, faith, and healing. After losing everything as a new Muslim, this post explores five actionable steps from the Qur’an that guide real healing—for men carrying wounds they don’t talk about.
THE WEIGHT WE CARRY
James Leiws
6/6/20253 min read


Let me pipe up real quick.
Some wounds don’t bleed.
They linger. They echo.
They hide behind routines, smiles, and "I’m good."
Healing ain’t always loud—but it is possible.
And the Qur’an didn’t just call us to heal—it showed us how.
I used to blame Islam for my wounds.
Thought I was safer when I was lost.
Back when I wore crosses and called on Jesus as more than a Prophet, the court didn’t touch me.
But the moment I became Muslim, the system came for everything.
I didn’t lose my kids until I found my faith.
So for a long time, I thought maybe Allah had wounded me.
But the truth?
Islam wasn’t the cause of the wounds. It was the realization of them.
The test didn’t break me—it revealed me.
And slowly, painfully, it started guiding me back to wholeness.
So here it is.
5 Steps to Healing Taught in the Qur’an
Real healing. Rooted in revelation.
Not theory. Not vibes. Not trends.
Just what’s already been written—for people who are ready to return.
1. Turn Back with Tawbah — Qur’an 66:8
“O you who have believed, turn to Allah with sincere repentance…”
Not performative. Not rehearsed.
Just raw repentance.
You don’t need a speech—just honesty.
Repentance is the reset button on your soul.
Action:
Make wudu, find a quiet spot, and tell Allah the truth.
No filters. No fear. Just realignment.
Start there. Everything starts there.
2. Stay Steady in Salah — Qur’an 20:14
“Establish prayer for My remembrance.”
Prayer is where the wounds stop being silent.
Prayer is where Allah meets you—messy heart and all.
Action:
Even if your iman is low, don’t let your salah slip.
Set an alarm. Keep a rug by your bed.
Healing starts with structure.
Salah is a skeleton key for a soul locked up in grief.
3. Speak What’s Good — Qur’an 33:70
“O you who have believed, fear Allah and speak words of appropriate justice.”
The tongue is a trigger. It can reload your trauma or release it.
Action:
Change the way you talk to yourself.
Say “I’m healing” even if you don’t feel it yet.
Write du’as in your journal. Say Bismillah before hard things.
You can’t think yourself into healing if your mouth keeps undoing the work.
4. Show Sabr, But Don’t Numb — Qur’an 2:155–157
“Give glad tidings to the patient... who say, ‘Indeed we belong to Allah, and indeed to Him we will return.’”
Sabr isn’t silence.
Sabr is choosing God over giving up.
It’s crying and believing at the same time.
Action:
Let yourself feel.
Grieve what you lost.
Name what hurt you.
Just don’t do it in a vacuum—do it in remembrance.
Allah said He is with the patient. Not the perfect.
5. Give, Even While Empty — Qur’an 3:134
“Those who spend in ease and hardship...”
When you feel like you have nothing left,
that’s when you find out what you're really made of.
Action:
Be a light for someone else, even if your flame is flickering.
Send that text. Make that call.
You don’t have to fix anyone—you just have to show up.
Sometimes healing comes not from being poured into,
but by pouring into others with whatever cup you got left.
I say all that to say this:
Healing ain’t always loud. Sometimes it looks like praying with tears no one sees.
Sometimes it looks like crawling back to God a thousand times and still hearing Him say:
“Come back again.”
Islam didn’t just save my soul.
It taught it how to breathe.
Remember we all carry something, but here you don't have to carry it alone.
Pipe Up.
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